Leather Bondage for Beginners

If you’re new to leather bondage you might be feeling a little nervous, but there’s no need to get tied up in knots. We’re here to give you the lowdown on how to play safely, explain bondage methods, and explore the leather restraints you can use. We’ll also give you a few roleplay and scene ideas to get your BDSM juices flowing.

Let’s start with the basics - bondage falls under the BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) umbrella. The act involves being physically restrained or physically restraining others. You can tie or be tied with various bonds including rope, silk ties, tape, metal handcuffs, and leather cuffs.

People practice bondage for all sorts of reasons, including erotic stimulation, as part of sexual play, or for sensory pleasure. Bondage can also play a part in a D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationship or scenario, with the Dominant partner taking enjoyment from restraining and the sub relishing the vulnerability of being restrained. Others practice bondage for aesthetics - binding, and restraint looks highly effective and can look very artistic too.  

What type of leather bondage kit should I use?

There are plenty of BDSM products on the market, and if you’re new to leather bondage it can be daunting when you’re deciding what to buy. Steer clear of faux leather items as these are inferior in quality. While they are often cheaper, faux leather items will degrade over time and usually end up costing you more in the long run by having to replace them every few years! Real leather bondage products look, feel, and smell distinctive, and will stand the test of time. Here are a few of our top picks from Mercy Industries, and they are all perfect for leather bondage beginners. 

The Leather Body Harness

As you fasten the leather straps around your body, you’ll lose yourself in a leather bondage hug. Leather body harnesses help submissives achieve a subservient mindset, and they look amazingly sexy too. 

The Black leather & Rose Gold Aurum Goddess and Lower Body Harness Set will make you feel like a bondage queen. The harness is available in a small-medium, large-X-large or you can go for custom sizing at no extra cost. 

By measuring your neck, under bust, waist, hip, thigh circumference, and bra cup size your harness can be made to measure, ensuring a perfect fit.

The Aurum Body Harness is the epitome of luxury and is handcrafted from sumptuous 2.0mm thick black leather which is both soft and strong. Adorned with striking rose gold hardware (O Rings and studs) the harness is fastened with matching rose gold buckles for a comfy fit. Wear the harness against bare skin, over lingerie, or on top of your clothing – whichever way you choose to wear it you’ll look amazing.

The Leather Collar

Collars are worn by submissives to enhance a Dom/sub scene, bolster a power exchange dynamic, or denote ownership. Collars can be put on to indicate the start of a scene and removed at the end or can be worn 24/7. 

Handcrafted from luxurious soft-grain 2.2 mm thick leather, the beautiful Black Custom Engraved Martingale Day Collar is perfect for bondage. The collar is 20mm wide and will fit a neck size of 31-42cm but can also be tailored to your specific measurements. Simply measure your neck circumference and we will custom make it to fit perfectly. 

The Martingale Collar also features a rose gold chain and O-Ring, along with a standard buckle, or if you prefer, a lockable buckle. There’s a custom engraved rose gold heart tag too and you have both sides engraved or just one. There are so many words you could choose to etch onto the pendant. Will you go for the sub’s name or a description such as bad girl, slave, pet, or brat? There are eleven styles of font, so you’ll be spoiled for choice.

If you prefer a more colourful option you could ditch the plain black and opt for the Premium BDSM Purple Leather Bow Collar with Engraved Pendant. This cute but sassy bondage collar is handcrafted from three layers of durable leather and comes complete with a standard buckle or lockable one. 

The collar comes with a 75cm leash which can be attached to one of three attachment points. Have fun keeping firm control of your submissive and take them for a crawl around the room if the mood takes you.

The Leather Wrist Cuffs

When you want to restrain your submissive there’s no better way to do it than with the Black Leather & Rose Gold Custom Lettering Wrist Cuffs “Yes Sir.” The cuffs are crafted from supple but strong leather and lined inside with a soft layer of nappa leather for comfort. There are roller buckles too to aid fastening and removal.

If you order a standard size, you’ll find the cuffs fit wrist size 13-20cm, but you can order custom-sized cuffs for a bespoke fit. The cuffs can be personalized too, which adds to their unique appeal. The 30mm rose gold lettering looks stunning against the stark black of the leather cuffs.

If black isn’t your bag, then move away from the traditional bondage colour in favour of something different. How about Premium Leather Wrist Cuffs in Blush Pink with Gold Hardware? Made from premium leather and boasting three layers, including one of soft nappa leather, these hardy cuffs are designed to keep your sub exactly where you want them.

The blush rose cuffs are 4mm thick, 60mm wide and a standard size pair will fit wrists size 13 to 25cm. Again, custom sizing is available as an alternative sizing option. You can specify which fastening you prefer too, be it standard with no lock, or a lockable buckle with gorgeous matching locks! 

The Leather Ball Gag

Take your bondage session to another level by using a gag to silence your partner. Ball gags consist of a ball that sits inside the mouth (between the teeth) and two straps that fasten around the head. They prevent speech and muffle moans, groans, and squeals… 

The  Black Leather & Rose Gold Premium Single Strap Leather Ball Gag is a popular option, due to its obvious quality and good looks. Made from strong, supple 2.2mm thick leather, the single strap is hand-stitched and features a food-grade silicone ball. 

Adorned with rose gold hardware, the gag can be fitted with a standard or lockable buckle to add to the fun. Size-wise, you can opt for a small ball at 42mm, a medium ball at 45mm, or a large one at 48mm – depending on how much of a mouthful you fancy. The strap is sized to fit the majority of people, but you can customize the size by providing neck and head circumference measurements.

Leather bondage scenarios and games

Once you’ve got your kit you can have a great time trying using it. Leather Bondage games are fun, and there are plenty of scenarios you can try out. The bondage harness can be worn to show off the submissive and enforce a subservient mindset. Parade your sub around the room, and have them adopt slave positions e.g. kneeling on the floor, etc.

Leather collars can be used to remind the submissive of their agreement to comply. You can place the collar on your sub as part of your scenario fastening it in place as you begin. Once the collar is on your sub must obey commands and refer to you as Mistress, Master, or your chosen moniker. You might want to have them stand in the corner or act as a piece of furniture such as a footstool.

If you’re incorporating leather cuffs into play you can choose from several positions. You can cuff each wrist and fasten together to restrict movement. Alternatively, thread the cuffs through the headboard or attach them to a banister rail. Add spice to the bedroom by using role-play, with the Dom taking the part of the harsh prison guard and the sub as the lowly prisoner. The guard can cuff their prisoner and tease and torture them as they please.

Leather ball gags also come into their own during leather bondage. Loud submissives can be subdued with a gag, preventing them from shouting, cursing, etc.

The gag could be used to enhance role play too, and works great during abduction scenes with the Dom roughly gagging the sub before tying their helpless victim to a bed or chair.

Use leather bondage to boost a spanking session, or add in sensory fun by using feathers, ice, sharp fingernails, a hairbrush, etc to create different sensations as you touch bare flesh. There are plenty of ways to play, but start slowly and make sure you always take a Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) approach…

Safe, Sane, Consensual Leather Bondage

A Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC) approach is essential when engaging in any sexual or BDSM activity. Trust, respect, and mutual pleasure are key and all parties must consent (remember consent can be withdrawn at any time). Begin your negotiation by discussing play ideas and scenarios.

Share your expectations and any concerns. This is the time to disclose medical conditions, share emotional triggers, and set boundaries. Safe words are essential too - in the BDSM world “Amber” means slow play down and “Red” means stop. If the sub is gagged or hooded a safe signal, such as a tap of the foot, may be more appropriate.

Leather bondage can be great fun but do your homework before you begin. Make sure you know how to use the restraints and get a care kit ready so you’re fully prepared. The kit should include water, a blanket, safety shears or scissors, a first aid kit, and a mobile phone.

Always check in with your partner during play, and ensure you’re both enjoying the experience. Aftercare is important too, so once you’ve finished playing have a bite to eat or a drink, or wrap up in a blanket for a snuggle.

Ready, Steady, Play

Leather bondage is a superb way to play. Remember to use high-quality leather products when building a kit bag and always adopt an SSC approach. If you’re new to play don’t rush in, play should be pleasurable and fun and everyone should have a great time.